Dating trends keep changing with time. One of the most common things you might see in dating today is a situationship. A situationship is usually a romantic or sexual relationship with someone which has not been formalized or established. Since it is not a real relationship, the term situationship is used to address them.
While the relationship may not be real, the emotional and mental pain after separating from the other person is. An ending situationship hurts as much as a break-up or sometimes even more. It may vary from person to person. If you have been in the same situation, you might need professional help like OKC Counseling to move on.
How to get over your situationship
- Remove them from your social media accounts.
The first thing you should do when you end a situationship is removing them from all your social media accounts–Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat and delete their number too. If you have access to talk to them, you will have the urge to text or call them. If you keep talking to them, you will never be able to move on from this situation.
Moreover, if you text them and they do not respond, it will put you through even more heartache. You do not want to drain your mental energy thinking about them when you have other important things to think about.
- If you cannot talk about your feelings, write them down.
Not everyone feels safe or comfortable talking about their feelings to other people, which is fine. However, it is important that you let your emotions out, as suppressing them can cause more damage. Writing down your thoughts allows you to investigate your feelings and debate whether they are true. For example, if you write, “I am a terrible person, and I do not deserve happiness,” you will be forced to think about whether it is even true.
- Accept that they were not who you were meant to end up with.
It may sound cliche, but if you separate from a person, you are not meant for them. If someone wants to be with you, they will make it clear before you and won’t leave you wondering in the dark. While you might think you could have done things better to make them feel more for you, it is important to know that you are not wrong here.
Situationships are a weird place to be in, and their outcomes are almost never pleasant. If you are suffering from post-breakup depression or anxiety, therapy can help.