How Mindfulness Can Help One Cope While Mourning

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Even though we’re well aware that we’re bound to face death in one way or another, we cannot be fully prepared once a loved one dies. While sympathy gifts like Memorial wind chimes offer a way to pay homage to the memories and legacy of the deceased, people still look for other avenues to help them cope while mourning, one of which is by practicing mindfulness.

Understanding Mourning

According to experts, mourning has five different stages:

Denial. Because of its overwhelming nature, mourning can prompt us to believe that such a devastating change isn’t actually happening. Experts claim that this is a common defense mechanism we use to numb our senses and shield us from the pain that comes with losing a loved one permanently.

Anger. Another coping mechanism we use against grief is anger — it’s our way of masking resentful feelings.

Bargaining. Once reality dawns, it’s natural for us to bargain and plead to turn the situation upside down. It’s a stage that highlights our helplessness.

Depression. When we realize that the truth can’t be changed — that death is something we can’t undo, no matter how much we plead — that’s usually when we’re overwhelmed with intense feelings of sadness. Getting depressed can make us feel stuck in the bottom pit.

Acceptance. This stage is when we come to terms with the situation we’re in: We’re now living in a world without our deceased loved one’s physical presence. Thanks to mementos like memorial wind chimes, we can have some sort of connection still to the people we’ve lost.

Utilizing Mindfulness

While grief is a universal feeling, the way people experience and deal with it varies. These aforementioned stages can come in no particular order — it’s linear and it can be felt at different points in our lives. Hence, many are turning to practicing mindfulness to help cope with these feelings more easily.

To be mindful is to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings. And much like the “magic” of memorial wind chimes once they get played by the wind, practicing mindfulness can invite you to pause for a while, take a breath, and clear your mind so you can better embrace your situation afterwards.

So how can you utilize this approach for your mourning process?

One of the most basic ways is through mindful breathing. This is done by taking a deep breath, taking the time to slowly inhale and exhale. To help clear your mind, you should pay attention to the rise and fall of your chest — and the particular feeling of getting air into your body and letting it out.

You can also ease your grief through mindful walking; it’s a physical activity that doesn’t only foster better blood circulation — but a way to get closer to the relaxing elements of nature like the wind and the smell of the air. The difference that sets it apart from regular walking is that this one tends to be slower. You’d also need to spend around two minutes standing before taking a walk.

Lastly, you can also utilize mindfulness to encourage self-love. Spend some quiet time and talk to yourself — recite a mantra, or voice out uplifting words to help you cope with your sadness.

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About the Author: Patrick R. Turner