It’s so easy to get caught up in our idea of how things should be that we lose sight of the important things. What are these important things, you ask? Well, they include:
- Your self-worth
- Your mental, emotional and physical wellbeing
- Your motivation to carry on against all odds
- Your friends and family
- Your passions
There’s a lot more, but that’s for another piece.
But what does losing sight even mean?
When I talk about losing sight—whether I’m addressing a crowd as a corporate motivational speaker or as a friend or colleague—I’m referring to letting ourselves go.
We neglect ourselves and our loved ones and become obsessed with the idea of achieving our idea of success. This is damaging to anybody who wants to live their life to the fullest, because nothing will ever feel enough.
When that happens, it’s the point of no return. You never recover the fresh bout of motivation that kept you on your toes, the excitement that came with the promise of things untold or any of the youthful idealism you once had; and yes, this can happen while you’re young.
How do I keep myself from ‘losing sight’?
The easiest way to stay on track is to keep yourself motivated, and no, I don’t mean being unrealistically optimistic. That’s impossible. You can stay motivated in a consistent and sustainable way by adopting the following practices:
1) Be mindful – of yourself and your mindset
Keep yourself in check. Be a voice of reason and of sanity to yourself and keep reminding yourself that it’s not all bad, that any bad time will pass. Staying positive is a skill we must all acquire.
2) Find your reason
Why are you doing the things you’re doing? Is it because society told you to or do you genuinely, truly want to chase after them? Once you have a reason, keep it close to you so you have something to come back to.
3) Focus on big and small things
The big picture helps us locate ourselves outside of our immediate worries and focus on the end goal, but the smaller things are important, too. The small joys and victories are what keep us going on the hardest days.
4) Be accountable to yourself
Being accountable to yourself is hard, because it means you need to be honest and realistic, but it’s important. Don’t be afraid of confronting the truth.
5) Set attainable and realistic goals
And the easiest way to keep yourself going is… be realistic. That’s it. Set goals that are attainable and realistic; idealism is great, but it can be a real let down, too.
To quote Steve’s Rizzoisms, “Happiness is our main purpose and ultimate goal in life; it is the Big Kahuna and the highest of all goals. All other goals, personally and professionally, be they fame, wealth, power, marriage, raising a family or pursuing a career, are stepping stones to happiness. In other words, you want to achieve those goals because you are convinced they will make you happy (or at least happier than you already are).”